The Overthinking Cure

When you are reactive, you have no such inner security. You are waiting for others to determine your fate, or sitting ineptly and complaining about what they choose for you

they know that they always have options, they can always become aware of them and make conscious choices, and they can always make the best of even the worst possible outcomes.

It also means they have to be mature enough to shoulder some risk—if they fail, they know that only they are responsible and can blame nobody.

Proactive people consciously create the conditions they desire

hey make efforts to create situations that actually align with their values. A reactive person quietly hopes that things will align for them, or that others will help them,

It’s not really the outcome or result that matters but the attitude.

you have conscious awareness of your own scope of action, you have an “internal locus of control,”

roactive person is also able to recognize when they don’t actually have an influence over outcomes,

t’s more about what you “should” do or are being made to do, than what you genuinely want to do.

this is a person who acts only as a response to other people’s actions, or according to the environment, and less from their own innate agency and desire