Three marriages, three divorces, and a total of seven children later, Ben T. Dover has been on a wild ride of lessons in understanding himself, being a father and a husband, and what factors can be the rise and fall of a marriage. In 1988, being freshly out of high school himself, his first marriage resulted from an unexpected pregnancy. Both parents, being young and unexperienced in the world, needed to learn what it took to make a marriage work, and ultimately, life got in the way.

His second marriage, with the only one he truly loved, was blissful at first, but work, time commitments, health scares with their son, and too much time apart drove them into the arms of others, ending their once-happy home, resulting in the pregnancy of this eventual third wife, and the hell that followed.

Drugs and alcohol plagued his final marriage. Adultery, lies, scheming, she was prey to it all, deceiving him at every turn.

Three I Dos and a Bug FU (Fundamental Understanding)! is a wild ride, at times humorous and others tragic, a fascinating journey into one man’s search for fundamental understanding in relationships and life.

Ben T. Dover

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