Tony Bennis

However, some folks that this self-centeredness too far. In their bid to serve their needs, they tread upon the feelings and emotions of others.

intensity of this may vary from person to person depending on their upbringing, environment, personality, experiences, education and several other factors

stark reality about manipulation is that it originates from people who are grappling with issues related to security, self-confidence, and comfort.

persuasion awards the other person a right to select his/her response to a particular situation, manipulation does give the victim the right to choice. Manipulation has only one way – the way your manipulator wants you to take.

Complaining
-Playing victim
-Inducing guilt
-Comparing

Offering excuses and rationalizing
-Feigning ignorance
-Emotional blackmail
-Evasiveness
-Demonstrating fake concern
-Undermining people
-Blaming others and using “who me?” defenses
-Lying
-Denying
-False flattery
-Intimidation
-Giving the illusion of selflessness
-Shaming
- Using foot in the door techniques

words, “He that has once done kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged.” Seemingly small acts like (saying a thank you or being gracious) these go a long way in forging bonds where people truly like you and listen to you.

I am undeserving or unworthy of people and things!

Low or No Conscience
Lack of consciousness is another fundamental reason for manipulation. When a person fails to realize that he/she is responsible for their own reality, there is a greater tendency to operate without a conscience. Manipulators don’t believe a fair system exists.

ists. Also, they’ve stopped evolving. They don’t learn from earlier experiences or try to accomplish a state of congruence between inner emotions and external life.