John Karter

Make a list of the needs you had when you entered into your current or most recent relationship. Try to be as honest as you can with yourself.
• How many of those needs have been met either in full or in part?
• How many of them have not been met at all?
• During the course of the relationship, have you recognized new needs and/or discarded some of the original ones?
• What do you think your partner’s needs were/are? Do you think he/she feels those needs have been met?

better communication, acceptance of the other person’s human failings, and learning to deal with change, needs to be supplemented by an understanding of what is really going on beneath the surface of the dialogue and interactions.

able to step back and acknowledge their own feelings of vulnerability, and, most importantly, listen to what the other was trying to communicate

Giving and receiving love/affection/intimacy
Curing loneliness
Companionship
Security
Having children
Sexual fulfilment
Complying with pressure from society/parents/media
Validation of self

Knowing your needs

more about what we want than what we need.

become aware of their individual needs, and this will begin to impact the relationship in a positive or negative way, depending on how it is handled.

people bring needs into their relationships that have not been communicated to the other person.