We vibrate to the rhythms of our mother’s blood before she herself is born. . . .
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
We knew so little then about each other, about the people we would be.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
We’re all entitled to have certain expectations of each other and of ourselves. Motherhood is no different. We all expect to have, and to marry, and to be, good mothers.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
We’d practiced this. We’d done the class. But I couldn’t find that sense of calm I’d been promised, the intuition that was supposed to kick in.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
But then I would stare at Violet’s face in the stroller all the way home, wondering why she didn’t feel like the best thing that had ever happened to me.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
The woman turned to me and we shared a look. Not a smile, but an acknowledgment that we had both morphed into a version of ourselves that didn’t feel as good as had been advertised.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
Why did I think I would be any different than the mother I came from?
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
Those rare nights were like gifts to me, although she would never know it. I was desperate to know who she was before she became my mother.
Alejandra Valeriahas quoted8 months ago
I started to understand, during those sleepless nights replaying the things I’d overheard, that we are all grown from something. That we carry on the seed, and I was a part of her garden.