Beauty Sick
- Aya 🌙has quoted10 months ago
when your little girl
asks you if she’s pretty
your heart will drop like a wineglass
on the hardwood floor
part of you will want to say
of course you are, don’t ever question it
and the other part
the part that is clawing at
you
will want to grab her by her shoulders
look straight into the wells of
her eyes until they echo back to you
and say
you do not have to be if you don’t want to
it is not your job - Aya 🌙has quotedlast yearIf you feel short of time and money, but still spend plenty of both trying to push yourself closer to our culture’s beauty ideal, you can blame beauty sickness.
- Aya 🌙has quotedlast yearThose who shame women for their appearance feed beauty sickness. Those who praise girls and women only for how they look do the same.
- Aya 🌙has quotedlast yearSo many young women today are strikingly bold in important areas of their lives, but still crumble in front of the mirror
- Aya 🌙has quotedlast yeartake on the world
Challenge the world
- kyptcathas quoted3 years ago
‘Your dreams and desires are more important than what society’s expectations of you are,’ - kyptcathas quoted3 years agoAppearance-driven conversations force every woman in hearing distance to think about her own appearance. Help the women you spend time with escape the internal mirror by encouraging conversations about other topics. Women talking about appearance with other women is a strong cultural norm. It’s a quick and easy way to bond with a woman—just compliment her outfit or her haircut. It can be a hard habit to break, but it’s worth giving it a try. Think back to your “what matters more” list. Remember that every woman has that list. Try to ask questions or pay compliments that address that list instead of feeding an already rampant focus on how women look.
Las conversaciones centradas en la apariencia obligan a todas las mujeres que se encuentran a distancia de audición a pensar en su propia apariencia. Ayuda a las mujeres con las que pasas el tiempo a escapar del espejo interno fomentando las conversaciones sobre otros temas. Que las mujeres hablen de su apariencia con otras mujeres es una fuerte norma cultural. Es una forma rápida y fácil de establecer un vínculo con una mujer: basta con hacer un cumplido sobre su ropa o su corte de pelo. Puede ser un hábito difícil de romper, pero vale la pena intentarlo. Piensa en tu lista de "lo que más importa". Recuerda que todas las mujeres tienen esa lista. Intenta hacer preguntas o hacer cumplidos que se dirijan a esa lista en lugar de alimentar un enfoque ya desenfrenado sobre el aspecto de las mujeres.
- kyptcathas quoted3 years agoAnother way to respect the fact that your body doesn’t exist just for other people to look at is by dressing in a way that doesn’t distract you from what you’re doing. If you can’t sit comfortably in an outfit, that’s a guarantee that it will steal valuable brain space from you when you wear it.
- kyptcathas quoted3 years agoThe way to take better care of your body is by being kind to it and practicing gratitude for all the things it does for you. Just as we take good care of the people we love, we can learn to take good care of our bodies through practicing compassion instead of denigration. Don’t listen to those in this world who claim you have to hate how your body looks in order to motivate healthy behaviors. That’s nonsense.
La manera de cuidar mejor tu cuerpo es siendo amable con él y practicando la gratitud por todo lo que hace por ti. Al igual que cuidamos bien de las personas que queremos, podemos aprender a cuidar bien de nuestro cuerpo practicando la compasión en lugar de la denigración. No escuches a quienes en este mundo afirman que tienes que odiar el aspecto de tu cuerpo para motivar comportamientos saludables. Eso es una tontería.
- kyptcathas quoted3 years agoWhat kind of person do you want to be?
I’ve now asked that question of thousands of women. While their answers vary widely, not one has told me, “I want to be the kind of person others find pretty.” Instead, they tell me they want to be the kind of people who bring joy and laughter to others, who heal the sick, who fearlessly explore new technologies, who nurture those who need nurturing, who create art that inspires, who write words that move, who fight for those who cannot fight for themselves.¿Qué tipo de persona quieres ser?
Ya he hecho esa pregunta a miles de mujeres. Aunque sus respuestas varían mucho, ninguna me ha dicho: "Quiero ser el tipo de persona que los demás encuentren bonita". En cambio, me dicen que quieren ser el tipo de persona que lleva la alegría y la risa a los demás, que cura a los enfermos, que explora sin miedo las nuevas tecnologías, que cuida a los que necesitan cuidados, que crea arte que inspira, que escribe palabras que conmueven, que lucha por los que no pueden luchar por sí mismos.
