Carl Rogers

A Way of Being

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  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    eople wonder, with very good reason, how did he ever get a reputation? I wish I had the strength to be more similar in both kinds of groups, but actually the person I am in a warm and interested group is different from the person I am in a hostile or cold group.
    Thus, prizing or loving and being prized or loved is experienced as very growth enhancing. A person who is loved appreciatively, not possessively, blooms and develops his own unique self. The person who loves nonpossessively is himself enriched. This, at least, has been my experience.
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    It is as though he listened
    and such listening as his enfolds us in a silence
    in which at last we begin to hear
    what we are meant to be.
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    The perfected man . . . does not interfere in the life of beings, he does not impose himself on them, but he “helps all beings to their freedom (Lao-tse).” Through his unity, he leads them too, to unity, he liberates their nature and their destiny, he releases Tao in them.
    (BUBER, 1957)

    I suppose that my effort with people has increasingly been to liberate “their nature and their destiny.”
    Or, if one is seeking a definition of an effective group facilitator, one need look
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    A leader is best
    When people barely know that he exists,
    Not so good when people obey and acclaim him,
    Worst when they despise him. . . .
    But of a good leader, who talks little,
    When his work is done, his aim fulfilled,
    They will all say, “We did this ourselves.”
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    Finally, I have a deep belief, which can only be a hypothesis, that the philosophy of interpersonal relationships which I have helped to formulate, and which is contained in this paper, is applicable to all situations involving persons. I believe it is applicable to therapy, to marriage, to parent and child, to teacher and student, to persons with high status and those with low status, to persons of one race relating to persons of another. I am even brash enough to believe that it could be effective in situations now dominated by the exercise of raw power—in politics, for example, especially in our dealings with other nations. I challenge, with all the strength I possess, the current American belief, evident in every phase of our foreign policy, and especially in our insane wars, that “might makes right.” That, in my estimation, is the road to self-destruction. I go along with Martin Buber and the ancient Oriental sages: “He who imposes himself has the small, manifest might; he who does not impose himself has the great, secret might.”
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    ngry with myself when I discover that I have been subtly controlling and molding another person in my own image. This has been a very painful part of my professional experience. I hate to have “disciples,” students who have molded themselves meticulously into the pattern that they feel I wish. Some of the responsibility I place with them, but I cannot avoid the uncomfortable probability that in unknown ways I have subtly controlled such individuals and made them into carbon copies of myself, instead of the separate professional persons they have every right to
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    into myself when I try to express something which is deeply me, which is a part of my own private, inner world, and the other person does not understand. When I take the gamble, the risk, of trying to share something that is very personal with another individual and it is not received and not understood, this is a very deflating and a very lonely experience. I have come to believe that such an experience makes some individuals psychotic. It causes them to give up
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    feel something, but only later do I dare to communicate it, when it has become cool enough to risk sharing it with another. But when I can communicate what is real in me at the moment that it occurs, I feel genuine, spontaneous, and alive.
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    feel a sense of satisfaction when I can dare to communicate the realness in me to another. This is far from easy, partly because what I am experiencing keeps changing every moment. Usually there is a lag, sometimes of moments, sometimes of days, weeks, or months, between the experienc
  • larybffhas quoted4 years ago
    when I can be close to whatever it is that is going on within me. I like it when I can listen to myself. To really know what I am experiencing in the moment is by no means an easy thing, but I feel somewhat encouraged because I think that over the years I have been improving at it. I am convinced, however, that it is a lifelong task and that none of us ever is totally able to be comfortably close to all that is going on within our own experience.
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